13 Responses to “Confessions of a really bad housewife”

  1. Annmarie April 25, 2008 at 12:18 PM #

    I am all for cleaning ladies. My mama always had a cleaning lady and I thought that was normal until I married. I have learned to live without one but I agree with your philosophy. Why work if you can’t use your money to live comfortably and happily.

  2. Angie April 25, 2008 at 12:23 PM #

    Annmarie! I haven’t “seen” you in ages! Where’ve you been hiding? I’m so glad to see you!

  3. Jewell April 25, 2008 at 1:26 PM #

    I can sooooooo relate!

    My house was actually cleaner when I worked outside my home. It didn’t seem like drudgery then. It was a welcome release valve from the corporate world.

    Now it’s, Meh, and distracting as heck. “Should go do this, should go do that.”

    And I totally agree…while it is hard to let someone into your house, the freedom allowed by just a bit of help is exhilerating. I’m waiting for the day I can have someone come in again.

  4. Melani Blazer April 25, 2008 at 1:55 PM #

    Oh, lucky you! My M-I-L has a housekeeper come in every other week, for all the reasons you mention, why work 5 days only to spend al day Saturday slaving over cleaning, recover on Sunday only to do it again?

    I’d love to have one myself, considering I pull a full time job and try to write at night, the hubby works lots of OT and well, time, ya know? Darn shame you live so far away… I’d ask for Lucia’s number!

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  5. Kimber An April 25, 2008 at 2:07 PM #

    I live for the day!

    As a former domestic employee (housekeeper, Certified Professional Nanny,) I encourage you to show your appreciation by leaving your cleaning lady her favorite can of pop, small snack, the occasional flower, and – my personal favorite – brag about her to someone when she can overhear. ;;)

    It’s too easy to take our support systems for granted! Good domestics don’t have to put up with it either, because they’re always in demand. πŸ˜‰

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  6. Susan Helene Gottfried April 25, 2008 at 2:33 PM #

    I’ve had a cleaning lady for years. Do NOT feel guilty!!

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  7. Annmarie April 25, 2008 at 3:07 PM #

    SOMEONE (my DH) killed TWO laptops and a desktop leaving me Out Of Touch. For my upcoming birthday my daddy bought me a MacBook. He is THE MacDaddy! So now I’m back and will resume stalking my favorite blogs!

  8. bettie April 25, 2008 at 6:15 PM #

    “It’s a huge drawback to working from home because bad enough when other people think that working from home means tons of extra time in your day, but it’s terrible when you put that pressure on yourself.”

    Maybe this is just me, but my house is _messier_ when I work from home, because I’m home all day to mess it up. It’s much easier to keep a house clean when you’re hardly ever in it.

  9. Nikki April 26, 2008 at 2:09 AM #

    i have to say that you are not being a bad housewife at all. You are WORKING from home. Anyway, my roommate and I had said we would hire someone for the last two years we lived here. We finally had Gloria come in, and for the next two weeks we sang her name and marveled over the sheer cleanliness. and now we come home after she has been here and just smile.

    I think if you are busy and work it is difficult to maintain your home. I am tempted to ask naysayers what time in my 80+ hour work week will I use to do that? If I only get one day off each week, I really do not want to use that cleaning.

  10. December Quinn/Stacia Kane April 26, 2008 at 8:56 AM #

    Why should you feel guilty because you can afford to provide work for someone who needs it? πŸ™‚

    I’ve been reading the No. 1 Ladies Detective Agency series lately, and found a really interesting comment in there about how it’s the duty of people who can afford it to hire domestics or cleaners or gardeners, because it provides work and keeps the economy moving etc. etc. etc. While I wouldn’t go so far as to say it’s a duty, I certainly think it’s something you should feel good about as opposed to guilty.

    And yeah, I work from home and have two little children, so my house is in terrible shape most of the time.

  11. Imogen Howson April 28, 2008 at 7:13 AM #

    Heavens, yes, what December said. You’re providing employment for someone who needs it. Like December, I don’t think you have a ‘duty’ to do so, but it’s definitely something to feel virtuous about, rather than guilty.
    I used to work as a nanny–and sometimes as a mother’s help, for women who didn’t do paid work themselves. They often employed cleaners as well, and laundry services for their husbands’ work shirts, and caterers when they had parties. And while some of this outsourcing did kind of make me blink, if they hadn’t done it then all of us nannies and cleaners and laundry-people would have had to look for other work.

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  12. Diane Craver April 28, 2008 at 11:36 AM #

    I’m glad you got a cleaning lady. You do work hard and deserve to have help. That’s great you found Lucia!

  13. Jessica April 29, 2008 at 8:25 PM #

    This is why Mondays are beautiful days in our house. We sing Marina’s praises every time we can. We opened the cabinets one day to find she had organized all baking pans in size order. There are little gems like that all the time. Treat her well. An occasional gift showing your appreciation is wonderful.

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