15 Responses to “Totally morbid conversation”

  1. Jaci Burton July 21, 2008 at 10:30 AM #

    Clearly a topic that hit our buttons this morning. I just blogged about the same thing. :giggle:

  2. azteclady July 21, 2008 at 10:33 AM #

    Call me morbid too, but I’d rather have the peace of mind of knowing things are set for my kidlets if I’m suddenly not around to take care of them.

  3. Mandy M. Roth July 21, 2008 at 11:00 AM #

    I agree. I like knowing things are taken care of. Plus, really, picture my hubby having to one, figure out how to use my blog, two, figure out what groups he should say anything on, three, work anything to do with my web. I’d so hang around after my death just to laugh at him trying to work it all. On a serious note, I like the peace of mind that comes with it all. And there have already been times when one of us has vanished without so much as a word from the web for some time and the rest of us are left to wonder if she’s okay. (Yes, it was me. Sorry)

  4. May July 21, 2008 at 11:38 AM #

    I should sort this bit out. Really, I should. I just haven’t gotten around to it.

  5. Wendyk July 21, 2008 at 11:45 AM #

    🙂 I’m in the group of having things in order. We know where our kids go, just in case, and my mom knows who to get into my email and who to contact. And especially since we lost my mil in March, we’ve discussed the music I want played and that I don’t see the reason for an expensive coffin. I mean really what for, just so I can rot in it and ruin it? Save the money and buy my kids something they need. See I’m morbid as well.


  6. Charlene Teglia July 21, 2008 at 12:05 PM #

    This is the kind of thing I should be more on top of. My agent’s office has a paper to send my writing income to my mom should anything happen to both husband and myself (for care of our children), but would she know where to find the current file my publisher would be waiting for, etc? I suppose I should write out something for In the Event Of. Safe travels, anyway!

  7. Leah Braemel July 21, 2008 at 12:18 PM #

    We got all our stuff in order when my sister’s ex-husband died a few years back and we had to go through his stuff trying to find his will and other information. I’ve made a point of letting our kids know where our wills are; I keep my passwords to my various loops and groups in a little book in my desk (as well as my power on password for both my laptop and desktop – however the security there does worry me if we’re ever burgled.)  And yes, we’ve even written out a list of who gets notified, bank accounts, etc. burial instructions, the whole shebang.While it’s morbid, it’s something that has to be considered ‘just in case’.  There’s enough the survivors are going to have to deal without worrying about that type of thing.

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  8. Maura Anderson July 21, 2008 at 2:07 PM #

    I posted on Jaci’s blog as well but I’ll post here too.

    I keep a list called the “Oh Shit” list. On it I have people to email and call and who they are to me. It also has a list of places to post the info to.

    I just realized I need to make another list with passwords.

    Once a year I update my list and several close friends get a copy plus my mother and my sister.

    I’d rather be prepared….

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  9. Chris M. July 21, 2008 at 2:11 PM #

    Okay, I must be morbid. My mother is too! I’ve known since I was old enough to even know what it meant where my parents’ power of attorney was and all their pertinent information. Also, we just lost one of our best friends (as well as our neighbor and practically part of our family) in January. The same week our baby was born, by the way. We were the ones to go through his files and find his family information and contact everyone to tell them that he was on life support in the hospital and what his power of attorney detailed.

    Needless to say, we got real serious about making sure everyone knew where our information was, and what we wanted for our children. Yes, my sister knows about all aspects of my life and has contact information for quite a few people that could get the word out to others. You should have seen the network that went into effect when we had the baby! LOL So, see, it’s not always morbid, it can be used for joyous occasions as well.

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  10. Maria July 21, 2008 at 2:59 PM #

    This is a topic that is always on my mind because my husband and I live 300 miles apart. We’ve done this for 8 years–but hopefully not for much longer.
    Because of our living arrangements, we stay in contact constantly. We even have “fail safe contact people” in case one of us misses our normal check in times.
    Two years ago, he was in a terrible motorcycle accident. He missed his check-in time by about 20 minutes. (I try not to panic until an hour passes.) Of course, when I did get the phone call, no power on Earth could stop me from reaching him. I left the office with a phone in my hand telling my boss I didn’t know when I’d be back.
    We each have the other’s phone numbers and email addresses for friends and work contacts should the worst happen. But you remind me that maybe I should expand that list to my crit partners and close social contacts that are strictly online.
    He knows all my local friends, but he doesn’t know my online buddies, some of whom I’m very close to.
    It might be a good idea to create a full directory for each of us. I’ve already made us a password book so we can get on each other’s computers and bank accounts.
    This is good post, Angie, and a healthy reminder in our hectic lives.

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  11. Angela July 21, 2008 at 4:01 PM #

    Finally finished my will and straightend out where my kids will go god fobid…. this year Wheeew…..did not think about the friends and stuff part…..but, thanks for the reminder….that would suck to have a friend MIA and not ever know. Okay enought of that…..safe trip….and have fun!!!

  12. Monica Burns July 21, 2008 at 5:26 PM #

    When I went into the hospital for heart surgery last Nov (genetic defect found oy!) I had things planned down to what type of flowers, what type of funeral, I wrote letters to my girls, and DH. Created a notice about my death so the DH could just load it to the website, and emails for contacting folks like my agent. He thought I’d lost it. But then he wasn’t the one facing the possibility of mortality under the knife. So I still have that info all together, just need another scare to make me update it. LOL Although….since we’re going to be out of town without the girls….okay, off to check the contacts and wills and stuff.

  13. Annmarie July 21, 2008 at 6:30 PM #

    I don’t have any plans.  I do know that four people have told me they are giving me their kids if something should happen to them.  Like seriously.  They have me listed in their wills.  I just hope nothing happens to anyone and certainly not all at once.

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  14. Lindsey July 21, 2008 at 9:39 PM #

    I’m so glad I’m not the only person who thinks about stuff like this!

  15. Lori July 22, 2008 at 1:08 AM #

    Yeah, we have the whole will thing done (although it took us about 15 years to do it!), and if somethig happened to me, hubby would know how to get onto my blogs, and into my email accounts to get in touch with all my friends from all aspects of my life.

    If something happened to us both? In terms of my online life… Well, I suppose I’d just drop off the face of blogland, never to be seen or heard from again. I suppose my blogmates would eventually figure it out. Actually JenniferB also freelances for my company, so she’d get the word, and that would take care of it. If anybody was truly that interested LOL!

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