16 Responses to “I am being so good…”

  1. Sybil December 12, 2008 at 7:24 PM #

    poor angie, I sorry

  2. Amanda December 12, 2008 at 7:24 PM #

    I think I read somewhere that 4 is the age they discover lying. It’s hard to understand why something that has your name on it can’t be opened yet. I haven’t located said instruction manual, but would enjoy reading it some time.

  3. azteclady December 12, 2008 at 7:47 PM #

    If someone does write an instruction manual and it actually works… well, they would made a fortune indeed.

  4. Phyl December 12, 2008 at 7:48 PM #

    Sadly they do lie that young. The good news is that they’re really bad at it. My 12yo is still really bad at it.

    Yep, parenting is hard, but SO worth it! We feel your pain.

  5. Annie December 12, 2008 at 8:15 PM #

    How my mom knew when my sister and I lied:

    The calcium deposits you get in your fingernails? Those white marks? My mom said they were lie marks… every time you told a lie, you got a lie mark on your fingernail. Of course, when I studied my nails, I could think of a lie that I told that matched every mark I had. So when I lied, I’d hide my fingernails… and thus my mom knew instantly that I was lying 😛

    When you get a hold of that instruction manual, please pass on a copy to me!

  6. Karin December 12, 2008 at 8:16 PM #

    You definitely deserve a drink and a present. My niece was doing stuff like that last year when she was three. *sigh*

  7. Lori December 12, 2008 at 9:39 PM #

    Oh no! SO sorry. Nope, no instruction manual. Just keep the alcohol handy, cause the lying unfortunately doesn’t stop. She’s at a ripe age for it, too. As they get older, the lies get more intricate and more interesting, though. Something to look forward to, LOL!!!

  8. BevQB December 12, 2008 at 10:11 PM #

    Doesn’t that just fry your bacon?! My youngest is 12 so I can deal out harsher justice than you, but he’s turned into a complete sneak– getting into Christmas presents and sneaking some of our (well hidden, we thought) pR0n stash and playing them on the DVD player he stole from one of his sisters (and insisted he hadn’t seen)!! OMFG! You’d think that by kid #4 we’d be experienced pros but he’s managing to come up with all new sanity stretchers.

    Seriously, as creative as your little angel is, any advice we give you now could become moot tomorrow! Scary, innit? BWHAHAHA

  9. GladysMP December 12, 2008 at 10:57 PM #

    Maybe I have an over-active imagination, but I can just picture a four year old tearing into a package and then being puzzled because she can’t figure out what the object inside is. “If this is a toy for me, someone will have to explain how it works.” LOL

  10. Judi - Sidhe Vicious December 13, 2008 at 3:14 AM #

    There is that Super Nanny book out, lol. I know this because my sister asked me to buy it for her for Christmas. She has a 2 and a half year old and an almost 5 year old. They keep her busy to say the least!

    Keep breathing and count to ten… or a hundred. That’s my best advice. 🙂

  11. Julie Robinson December 13, 2008 at 3:49 AM #

    As my mom told me 17 years ago, when I had my one and only son, use your common sense. Do what you think is best for your child. At 4, she knows you and she knows if what she is doing is pleasing you. And at that age, she still want to please you. You are her idol, her role model. So what she hears and sees you do, she will imitate. The old saying is true, “Children do as we do, not as we say.” Though it certainly doesn’t hurt to sit her down to tell her why opening a present that was not yet given to her is disappointing to the giver.
    Just my 2cents,
    Juile R.

  12. Valerie Oakley December 13, 2008 at 5:31 AM #

    Poor Angie!! When my oldest son got to that stage at abaout age 4\5 I tried the logic route, “You can’t do something just because it looks fun.” or “you can’t open it just because your name is on it.” (he hit the tree early like 1am Christmas morning and opened all his gifts. Then he sat amongst they paper where he had fallen back to sleep and denied it.) the good news is that often when you sit them down and explain that lying leads to a lack of trust\belief they do understand. My sons (I have three) still try to get out of trouble but when i ask them who did something they generally don’t lie about it.
    So best tactic (that I know anyway) is just to impress on her that while taking the present was wrong because it had not been given to her yet, lying is worse because then you won’t know when she is telling the truth.
    Good luck and if you find that instructioin manual can you forward a copy to me? Hopefully there is still time to work with my boys since the youngest is now 9.
    Happy holidays and enjoy the drink.

    Valerie O.

  13. Karin December 13, 2008 at 8:04 AM #

    When our daughter was two and roaring around in her walker, she used to pull the magazines off of the shelf on the TV stand. I would give her hand a gentle slap and say, “No No” that is until the day I walked in and saw her pulling the magazines of the shelf, holding her hand out to me, and saying, “No No”! That’s when I had to sit myself down and reassess my discipline program. I decided that if it was REALLY important then she had to realize that and the punishment had to show it. She didn’t like time out, so that became the preferred punishment for major infractions (don’t touch the stove,etc.). AND time out did not include toys. She is in her last year of graduate school now and seems to be okay so maybe it worked???

  14. netti December 13, 2008 at 8:38 AM #

    oh the joys of parenting, just wait, when they get older the lying and sneaking gets worse ~ instead of sneaking off with the present they just wait until you have left the building, sneaky like untape it, see what it is, then retape. Oh yeah, the joys of parenting.

  15. Crystal Dee December 13, 2008 at 11:18 AM #

    I did that once when I was about that age. Mom amd Daddy told me how wrong it was and then Daddy took the biggest gift for me that was under the tree and put it on top of the fridge. He made me wait until the week after Christmas to open it. Daddy said for everything we do something else will happen. Good things we do create good things to happen and bad things create bad. I had to look at that pretty present every day. I never did even try to open another present early, but it was really hard for Mom and Dad to listen to me cry for it. I’m not saying that was the right thing to do, but it worked.
    My kids are pretty big now, but if you find that manual, pass it on.

  16. azteclady December 13, 2008 at 1:15 PM #

    Bev(QB), I think I love you. And that evil cackling laughter thing? oh man!

    Sorry, Angela, still no advice from this quarter.

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