18 Responses to “Sliding Doors”

  1. Kristen January 26, 2009 at 12:59 PM #

    I do wonder sometimes. I think it’s only human. I have no regrets, though. I love my life and all the wonderful people in it.

  2. azteclady January 26, 2009 at 1:10 PM #

    I wonder all the time–which, I’m told, can make me a pain when it’s time to make monumental decisions.

    But I can’t regret any of the decisions I’ve made in my life, as they have brought me where I am. I do regret when I’ve caused others pain, but then I think that all we can do is try not to. Whether we succeed or not, if often out of our control.

    Great topic, Angela.

  3. Annie January 26, 2009 at 1:15 PM #

    I’ve seen the movie several times and loved it. However, I never realized that one version was “real”. Instead, I thought the ending implied that some things are destined for you no matter what decisions you make.

  4. Angie January 26, 2009 at 1:20 PM #

    Annie, I always thought of it as the Wikipedia entry describes it. In the end, one path did happen and then circles her around to the “what could have been” becoming more of a reality.

  5. Erin January 26, 2009 at 1:24 PM #

    One of my all-time favorite movies!!!

    And, yes, unfortunately I am the queen of “what if?!?!”

    But I have to think that everything happens for a reason… and things usually do ultimately work out “for the best,” even if it doesn’t seem that way at the time!

  6. Karen Erickson January 26, 2009 at 1:35 PM #

    I wonder too but I can’t have any regrets because I like where I’m at today…

    I love this movie – it’s been a long time since I’ve seen it. I need to watch it again.

  7. Bree January 26, 2009 at 2:58 PM #

    I always ended the movie vaguely depressed on behalf of alternate-reality fellow. 🙁 Though to be fair it’s been almost a decade since I watched it. Maybe I need to try it again.

    And I think about little decisions a lot. When I met Donna online ten years ago I could not have forseen a day where because of her I would move across the country, meet the man who would become husband and we’d start writing books together. It’s hard to even imagine what my life would be like today if I hadn’t chatted with her that first time back in 1999.

  8. rebyj January 26, 2009 at 7:41 PM #

    You really want to think, watch this movie and Donnie Darko on the same day!

    If I could go back in time and change things I would, not because of regret but simply because I have more sense now than I did when I was younger.

  9. Rosie January 26, 2009 at 10:59 PM #

    I think about stuff like that all the time, not out of any discontent with my life, but out of curiosity and wonder that if one teeny tiny element had been different I might not have met my husband, taken the job, moved, etc. etc.

  10. Annmarie January 27, 2009 at 12:47 AM #

    I often wonder where I would be if I had married my second fiance. I wonder about that every time I see a stack of wood. Which in GA, is pretty often.

  11. Michelle January 27, 2009 at 9:31 AM #

    I wonder about that all the time, because I made a couple of life-changing decisions when I was in 10th and 11th grade, then again my 2nd year of college. It really makes me wonder what “might have been” — good or bad — if those particular decisions hadn’t been made. I actually started writing a story about it, using my 85-year old grandmother as a character, sort of a retrospective of her correct life, and then her reliving it as if she made different decisions, we’ll have to see how it turns out!

    Personally, I’d like to go back to 8th grade, knowing everything I know now and re-live my life! That would be wicked cool. Oh, and I’ve watched that movie a couple of times…

  12. Dena January 27, 2009 at 10:03 AM #

    I think about this all the time because of a decision that I made the Summer I graduated changed my life for the worse and I was in horrible car accident that I left me disabled. If I would have went with my other friend it would have been a whole different future. I think if I could change it then I wouldn’t have my daughter though so I think if the past could be changed I wouldn’t want that part altered though. It’s very tricky and it is a lot to think on.

  13. ArkansasCyndi January 27, 2009 at 12:55 PM #

    I LOVED that movie! and yes, I can look back and actually see places in my life where I could have gone left when I went right. Rather than sliding doors, I always think about Robert Frost’s poem and see myself standing at a Y in the road. “this way” causes this to happen and “that way” brings me a different route. But what I don’t know if if the two arms of the “Y” are actually a circle drive and maybe I would have ended up at the same place regardless of direction.

    But it’s interesting to think about.

  14. sraikh January 27, 2009 at 4:38 PM #

    http://asaaan.wordpress.com/2005/08/17/sliding-doors/

    I wrote this post back in 2005. I would done things a bit differently I guess. I am happy now.But yet…..

  15. Karin January 27, 2009 at 6:32 PM #

    Like Kristen said, I think it’s only human to occasionally wonder what would happen if you make one choice over another. I know that I’ve wondered about it a number of times. But, even though I do wonder, I don’t regret any of the choices I’ve made so far.

    I haven’t seen this movie, but the description of it reminds me of one I watched in my LIterary Theory course last spring, where it’s basically the same story multiple times with one or two small changes each time. I can’t remember the title of the movie right now, which is driving me crazy, but I plan to look it up when I get home since I still have the syllabus.

  16. DBee February 14, 2009 at 9:52 AM #

    Great topic and movie analogy. I’m curious if there’s a name for this phenomena, maybe in the realm of quantum physics, etc. I agree with Annie’s comment: the “real” outcome was less important–it’s your fate whatever way it ends up. Not to take this to the dark side… but unfortunately, it might also help explain why there is such a public/collective fascination for famous deaths with questionable circumstances, ie, accident/suicide v. murder, etc. (too many to name)–either outcome, staged for both possibilities, would have happened at some point. The public clamors for concrete definitive answers that cannot ever be attained short of having a fully-equipped CSI team on stand-by at the time of these unfortunate events. On the positive and more pertinent side, to me it’s comforting to believe that whatever road I choose will bring me to the right destination, ie, my fate. One thing I’ve learned, to seize opportunities when they come–they are fleeting. The movie played well on many levels; deep and light. Either way, a life can change in a second.

  17. Angie February 14, 2009 at 10:08 AM #

    On the positive and more pertinent side, to me it’s comforting to believe that whatever road I choose will bring me to the right destination, ie, my fate.

    But on the other hand, if we believe that every road we choose takes us to a pre-ordained destination (fate) then there’s no such thing as free will because no matter what choice you make, the outcome will be the same, even if it’s not the outcome we wanted. That seems less comforting.

  18. DBee February 14, 2009 at 1:18 PM #

    OK… let me help out and clarify further. In my statement that “…whatever road I choose will bring me to the right destination, ie, my fate…” that conscious choices–“free will”–are made along the way and wherever that is…is fate because that’s what the result of my choices was. And I would be content with that. There is nothing “preordained” about it, nor that only the “same” result could happen, only the right “destination” as a result of choices. Sometimes we don’t always get the result we wanted, but get the one we earned thru those choices. I define fate or destiny as a result of free-will choices, not a mystical preplanned event, as I infer from your response. That would be limiting. Anyway, hope that helps.

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